tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-856234429053006246.post2440694601626120394..comments2023-03-30T07:52:18.997-07:00Comments on [EXTRA]ordinary Friends: Ch-Ch-Ch-Ch-Changes[REBECCA]scheererhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10289468131368202603noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-856234429053006246.post-62100238777656135492012-04-16T20:30:33.742-07:002012-04-16T20:30:33.742-07:00I hadn't really thought about it that way yet!...I hadn't really thought about it that way yet! So true about the differences in boy/girl relationships as a Mom (and I'm sure a Dad, too). Great perspective and I will surely pick up the book![REBECCA]scheererhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10289468131368202603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-856234429053006246.post-87830888753251746682012-04-16T08:37:55.812-07:002012-04-16T08:37:55.812-07:00OK, Becca, you first have to understand that Wyatt...OK, Becca, you first have to understand that Wyatt is a boy. I had Annalise and loved her so completely, I didn't think that I would be capable of loving another child as much as I loved her. That said, when Richard was born, I was overcome with immense feelings of love for him. It was kinda scary and a bit creepy except that I am his Mom so I am allowed to fawn all over him. <br /><br />Mom/son love is very different than Mom/daughter love. We see ourselves reflected in our daughters and hope that they will get the most they can out of life. With sons, there is almost a crush like infatuation that just never ends. I try to put the breaks on my infatuation but so often fail. He has me just as wrapped around his finger as his two sisters have their Dad. It is an opposite sex thing. For Wyatt, it is probably also that you think he is your last. I thought the same with Richard and did baby him sometimes. It is just so hard to turn off the nurturing. At age 9, I still want him to come to me when he has a cut so I can kiss it and make it better, but the ribbing he gets from the neighborhood kids is unrelenting. Your time will come when he starts to pull away. Honestly, it is painful but necessary.<br /><br />Enjoy the love you feel for each of you kids. While it may seem like you are playing favorites, I doubt you are. There is an ebb and flow to love with kids just like there is in a marriage. <br /><br />I suggest reading "I Love You the Purplest". It is about a Mother of two completely different boys who are constantly asking her, "Mommy, who do you love most?" Her answers help you realize how you can love each child differently but just as deeply. I hope this helps!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com